Experiencing toxic leadership is one thing but experiencing the actual force that causes you to stand up and fight can be an entire new experience. On the other hand the experiencing what makes us stay with a toxic leader can be poisonous it. We may choose to stay with a toxic leader for internal reasons like psychological feelings like needing an authority figure to replace parents and or caretakers that have structured our lives for so long we have failed to learn independence. Pragmatic reasons may include simply earning money to continue paying the pills and earning money and maintaining a stable job. Next we may stay for existential reasons just to have the sense of belonging and avoiding the fear of loneliness and isolation. There are also external reasons like uncertainty due to fear of loss of security and psychosocial reasons, which include the need to meet society’s standards of achievement and increasing self-esteem. The last external reason is the feeling of being unfinished in an unfinished world. Whatever reason it may be, finding the urge to fight it must come from some driving force.
These driving forces to speak out may include proximity, information, cost, and the identification with the victim. Being in close proximity to the toxic leadership will most often result in the chance of someone to speak out. In order to speak out one must be sure they have the right information, being accurate will give rise to confidence and build the urge to fight. Emotionally we are humans and seeing other people get hurt is tough but many also weigh the costs because if it is too high many people will refuse to speak up. One must remember there is power in numbers and whoever is leading this “rebellion” must have strong qualities to convince his or her followers that they will win and do the right thing.
Growing up and witnessing even the simplest things I would feel guilty. If I saw my brother steal something from the candy store or even from our own kitchen I had this urge to say something to him, but was nervous of the outcome because he was older and more intimidating but he was influencing me and showing me anyone could get away with it. But I had the information, I saw it with my own eyes but he was my brother how could I turn against him. These situations are always tough even if they are minute but doing the right thing should always be a priority. In high school I was driving with one of my girl friends and she backed up into a nice car. She hit it pretty hard and was just planning on leaving. Fear of karma I convinced her to turn around and find the owner, the lady who drove the car lived in my town, if I didn’t say anything I wouldn’t be able to face her later. Toxic leadership is a strong influence but a terrible odor. It is best to find the urge from somewhere and do what is right because it’s not worth it if you will feel guilty and unsure of what to do.
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